How we got over our eating disorder

by Lori and Michelle on August 4, 2010

Hello luvs,

Thanks again for everyone’s wonderful and inspiring comments about Lori and I’s eating disorder issues. It is comforting to know that we are not the only ones who went through something like overeating/under-eating habits and how we are all here to help each other out. Love our blog community! Thanks guys and gals! Love you all.

As I mentioned going along with our eating disorder we have done some things that really helped us overcome our bad eating habits and improved our self-esteem!

Eating was and still is a social thing. Mealtime is a great way most people bond! One big example of this is just by looking at all the food bloggers connecting through food :)

As I mentioned Lori and I used to eat things that made us feel sick in effort to connect with others. Over time though we realized this just is not healthy for us and needs to stop.

Nowadays we are so happy and passionate about the way we eat, we do have a hard time connecting with others sometimes. We are not sure why, because we never judge people for what they eat. Honestly it is not our business and as long as that person is happy, then we are happy for them.

Food should never cause tension, but bring joy and peace. One thing we have loved about food blogging is being able to connect with others, whether or not that person eats like us because great food is enjoyed by all! No one can tell you what to eat. Eat for you – eat for your health. Eat to feel your best!

june 2010 p2r blog 806A big bowl of quinoa always makes us feel great.

Now Lori and I are not 100% perfect. We still struggle with overeating from time to time because we love food so much. But in general we are MUCH BETTER in terms of our relationship with food!

How did we get over our eating disorder?

One of the main things that has really helped us is living ‘raw’ foods. Yes.. raw foods! Now this might not be the answer for everyone but it worked for us so maybe it could work for you.

To us living foods is more than just a fad diet, but something that brings us joy and inner peace. Peace that we are truly providing our bodies with pure food. We pour our love into our food and into our products.

july tc 2010 189Raw chocolate layered cake with ice cream in the center that we made for a client. Eating a dessert like this makes us happy.

How raw foods has helped us?

  • Overcome our emotional battle with food.
  • Helped us come closer to healing our stomach issues.
  • Fell in love with food again.
  • Feel more satisfied with every bite.
  • It makes us feel great!
  • Gives us energy.
  • Feel less guilty and stress free because do not have to count calories or fat, etc anymore!

Again Lori and I are not 100% raw (we do not like to use labels nor do we like to be grouped in a label) we just tend to eat more living unprocessed foods because of these reasons.

Another thing that helped us get over our eating disorder is exercise. Exercise has always been a HUGE part of our lives. We used to abuse our bodies during our workouts by OVER DOING IT. Now we workout to strengthen our bodies and exercise is our stress relief not a place where we want to add stress.

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Working out provides us with:

  • confidence
  • strength
  • motivation
  • self-esteem
  • empowerment

Some other things that helped us regain our self-confidence back and get rid of having a poor relationship with food are blogging, writing in a journal, smiling, laughing, dancing, being with friends and family, finding something that you are passionate about and do it everyday, and prayer!

Along with these great eats.

july blog 2010 938Love eating our gluten free vegan carrot cake

july blog 2010 1006 Onion free spinach flatbread tomato sandwich a new favorite.

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And of course our love for socca always makes us smile!

IF you are someone who had an eating disorder or suffers from low self-esteem what has worked for you? What helped you get over the fear of food and learning to love yourself again?

Time to get ready for our Wednesday farmers market.

Till next time,

Michelle

Pure2Raw Twin

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Nicole @ Making Good Choices August 4, 2010 at 10:35 am

I can’t say that this was ever a personal struggle of mine, but I think that you girls are inspirational. I love that you don’t judge what others eat and you just do what’s best for the both of you.

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Pure2 August 4, 2010 at 10:55 am

Nicole thanks girl! You are so sweet :) HUGS

Kaye Stain August 4, 2010 at 10:45 am

“Nowadays we are so happy and passionate about the way we eat, we do have a hard time connecting with others sometimes.”

I experience this a lot. I don’t care what anyone eats, but they seem to care way too much, what I prefer to eat. It’s weird. People really want you to eat what they are eating for some reason.
I suffer from very low self-esteem and have suffered from eating disorders through my life, I am 39. I exercise to feel more confident, but find it very difficult to do things alone. I feel better about myself for some reason, if I am in excellent shape and I am with someone very close to me. I haven’t kicked my issues yet so I look forward to hearing other’s tips. I love your blog by the way but usually don’t comment. Thanks.

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Pure2 August 4, 2010 at 10:59 am

Kaye thank you soooooo much for this wonderful comment! Looks like we share some of the same issues! I hear ya on feeling better when you are with someone lucky for me I have my twin. Just remember we are here for you any time :) Thanks for commenting it is good to hear from you! XOXO

hihorosie August 4, 2010 at 10:48 am

Being inspired and/or reminded of my self-worth helps me in those moments of self-doubt. Felt that today but stopped to realize EVERYONE, even those we think are the most beautiful and perfect, have their down days. Reading your earlier post reminded me I’m of value and need to remember that and change my outlook. I’m not perfect, but then who is? Love all the support, love and advice in the community. Really helps to stay on track or get back on track – whatever the case may be. Thanks for these inspiring posts!

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Pure2 August 4, 2010 at 11:00 am

Heidi once again your the best! Thanks for your support and inspiration as well, we love you :) HUGS

Megan @ Healthy Hoggin August 4, 2010 at 11:09 am

I suffered from over-eating as well, along with over-compensation with exercise and restriction, so I can TOTALLY relate! And you know what? Raw food was the answer for me, too!

While I don’t eat “all raw” either, eating a diet high in living foods has kept me satisfied, and still allows me to get creative in the kitchen! Counting calories drove me crazy for years, so eating high-raw has allowed me to throw all of that mentality out the window. I also LOVE dessert, and eating raw desserts on a regular basis keeps me mentally sane and guilt-free. And even though I can definitely still over-eat sometimes, too, it’s never the same as it used to be!

Loved hearing your story! :D

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Pure2 August 4, 2010 at 11:50 am

Megan thanks girl! Love ya! I agree eating raw desserts can be less guilty since we like to enjoy one just about every day :) XOXO

Ilana August 4, 2010 at 11:12 am

I feel like this is my story. Like I said yesterday I went through the same overeat/undereat cycle for a long time but then finally one day I had enough and decided to just try to eat three meals a day like a “normal” person. I think fully transitioning to veganism really helped me too – I was able to stop fearing that the food I was going to eat was going to make me feel like crap, and that helped me stop fearing food.
You two are so freaking inspiring I can’t even explain it!! Yours was one of the blogs I read that really helped me move forward, so thankyouuuu a thousand times.

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Pure2 August 4, 2010 at 11:51 am

Ilana, thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You are so sweet and you know we love ya :) I am so happy to hear that we helped you more forward and get better :) That makes us sooooo happy, we are smiling like crazy over here! HUGS

Sarah (GF vegan) August 4, 2010 at 11:19 am

Hi there, great tips! I love how raw food has helped you guys overcome eating disorders. For me, it was slow changes in perspective I think (just written a rather long post about it, oops!). Yay to overcoming disordered eating! xxx

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Pure2 August 4, 2010 at 11:53 am

Sarah, look forward in reading your post about your journey. ;)

The real L.A. love story. August 4, 2010 at 11:57 am

another part of building a positive relationship with food is to never say never. my sister has been on the raw food path but would always have a “day 1″ where from that point forward she will never eat cooked foods again. but she inevitably take a bite out of something cooked and because she was not perfect, she would binge and start over with a day 1 the next day. do your best everyday but we live in a world of cooked food and social eating so accept that and dont beat yourself up over a couple of bites of food.

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Roselie August 4, 2010 at 12:29 pm

I recently realized that becoming vegan was major help towards battling bulimia. Saving the animals is something so important that it gave me strength to overcome my cheese and chocolate addiction. And also forgiving myself. Immensely important.

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Pure2 August 4, 2010 at 1:53 pm

Roselie that is so sweet. I am glad that vegan lifestyle helped you! that is great :)

Lauren August 4, 2010 at 12:30 pm

So inspiring! YOU girls amaze me! :) keep it up! XO

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Lauren August 4, 2010 at 12:41 pm

Your story is so similar to mine, I could have written almost the exact same thing! I don’t think I’m quite as far along in my recovery as you two are, because I still struggle a lot…I think my problems are less to do with eating at this point, and more to do with depression. But they are so closely linked for me that it’s hard to tell. When I am depressed, my self esteem is admittedly very low, and that almost always has an effect on my eating habits and my exercise habits, and also the way I see myself. And I also feel very isolated because of these things, and also because of my diet…it is so difficult to be a part of social situations when so many of them revolve around food and alcohol that I can’t have. But I’m so happy that you shared your recovery story. I’m following a very similar path to recovery and I do believe that it will help me. I really believe that if I can alleviate my depression, the eating disorder won’t be such a big problem anymore. Thank you so much for sharing your story- I really relate, and it is so helpful for me to see that you both overcame this. I’m very happy to see you doing so well. xoxo

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Pure2 August 4, 2010 at 1:54 pm

Lauren, your very welcome! I am glad we could help and yes keep up with your journey to recovery, eventually it will get easier, hang in there :) We are here to help and support any way that we can! HUGS

Mimi (Damn the Freshman 15) August 4, 2010 at 12:46 pm

Oh yes–as a kid I always overate. Then when I lost weight, I underate and killed myself at the gym. I’m still looking for a perfect balance–I have hangups, or I’ll just get emotionally shaken up about something food related, but I’ve gotten a lot better. What helped me turn the corner was a food blogger who had recovered from an eating disorder. Also, learning more about food from a nutrient standpoint than a caloric one. And getting back in the kitchen and cooking for OTHER people–because I wasn’t as tempted to shortchange flavor for “healthier.”

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Pure2 August 4, 2010 at 1:55 pm

Mimi that is great! So glad that you are doing better now. :)

Ela August 4, 2010 at 1:40 pm

Thanks so much for posting about this. I really appreciate your sharing in such an open, honest and upbeat way. I’m sure that it’s not all cut and dried for you yet, because it’s such an insidious issue, but it sounds like your attitude is great and like you’re doing a wonderful job.

I think I’ve mentioned before my struggle with anorexia, and the struggles I’m having now with health issues of all kinds, even though it’s a few years since my weight was dangerously low. It’s inspiring to read about what you have to say.

Raw food definitely has helped me, although my guts are so messed up that there’s even lots of raw foods that don’t work for me (and currently with the candida that includes a lot of the ‘fun stuff’!)

I think exercise is a fantastic help too, although for those of us who have overexercised routinely, it’s a risky past also. Right now, my energy is so messed up that I really can’t do much exercise, but even stretching and getting a walk in every day is a good thing.

Another thing that helps is eating really regularly – I can only eat so little at a time, but nowadays I just can’t function if my blood sugar crashes, which it does if I don’t eat every maybe 3 hours. And if I’m hanging out with other people and they’re not eating, I feel ashamed/embarrassed and it’s hard to overcome. If I remind myself that it’s helping me to be my best and that other people would want for me to eat if my blood sugar crashed, that helps too.

And maybe the biggest things of all that help are my husband, who is so kind and supportive, and doing something I love.

Thanks again!
love
Ela

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Pure2 August 4, 2010 at 1:58 pm

Ela, our thoughts are with you during this tough time. I wish you all the best and pray you get better soon, but I know you will ;) You are doing everything you can to help your body! Keep up the great work! You are inspiring for us as well! I agree with being careful with the exercising part as it still can be tricky for us too, sometimes we go on a fitness craze and workout for a little bit too long. But the next day we get back into focus and remind ourselves we do not have to do that to our bodies anymore. :) HUGS

Megan @ The Oatmeal Diaries August 4, 2010 at 1:47 pm

You guys are both amazing. This post was exactly what I needed to read today!! :)

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Pure2 August 4, 2010 at 1:58 pm

Megan I am so glad we could help : ) HUGS

Mama Pea August 4, 2010 at 2:11 pm

Thank you guys for sharing this post. I know it is not always easy to talk about the struggles you have been through, but you are truly helping others! Bless you both!

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Pure2 August 4, 2010 at 2:57 pm

Mama pea thanks! It was scary to write about because we were not sure what exactly or how much to say. We just hope it helps someone :) HUGS

evergreen(happy raw kitchen) August 4, 2010 at 2:23 pm

Thanks for sharing your inspirational story. So happy that you are finding balance :)

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carrie August 4, 2010 at 2:42 pm

Trying to focus on my health instead of weight or physical appearance is the most helpful to me (though some days are easier than others…). Your blog has been a huge inspiration (I dont have any friends who are raw/vegan, or dealing with any similar health issues) so finding you, Choosing Raw and a few others has been the luckiest thing for me. thank you for always being brave and informative and kind!

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Pure2 August 4, 2010 at 2:58 pm

Carrie, we so honored to have you as a friend and a reader. I am so glad that we are here for you and helping each other along the way of healing :) XOXO

bitt August 4, 2010 at 2:53 pm

I can relate to eating things that make you sick in order to connect to others. A lot of other people pressuring me to eat stuff I wasn’t interested in. you have to get brave enough to say no.

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Pure2 August 4, 2010 at 2:58 pm

Bitt, yes you do! Saying no sometimes is hard but we have to remember feeling good is more important :) HUGS

Earth Mother – In The Raw August 4, 2010 at 5:12 pm

Ooooooh boy, you’ve touched upon a biggie here. I could write a book! Did you know that I used to tip the scales at 300+ pounds? Think I had some disordered eating going on?

Like you, including more raw living foods in my diet (that word still makes me shudder!), reeeeeeeeeally helped me Change My Relationship With Food. I came to the realization that food was fuel for my body, not a drug for my soul.

SO important to share our journeys. ((((Thank You!))))

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Pure2 August 4, 2010 at 7:28 pm

Earth Mother- thank you for sharing your story!!! You are such an amazing lady!!

Alisa August 4, 2010 at 6:20 pm

Wow, you two are amazingly connected, even for twins! That picture of you two is so cute.

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Lisa August 4, 2010 at 6:46 pm

What ultimately helped me overcome my eating disorder was one question my beloved (very funny) therapist said to me:
“How much of your time is consumed by thoughts about what you eat and weigh?”
Me: “100%”
Therapist: “Um, so don’t you have anything else better to do with your time?” (with a smile)

At the time (16 years old), thing rang true for me. Things shifted immediately and I began to “get a life”. It took me a few years, but I got one :)

Now, I’m 30, vegan, “semi-raw” and I spend A LOT of my time thinking about food- how excited I am to eat my next nourishing meal, what beautiful meal I have to enjoy, what this beautiful food will do for my body and my spirit, what yummy plant-based creation I can enjoy…. etc, etc, etc. To shift from battling food to embracing its healing properties is phenomenal.

I also know/believe that yoga cured my poor body image. I was a marathon runner/dieters/disordered eating/exercise exercise excercise…. and still couldn’t “get the look” I wanted. One yoga class shifted everything for me. Now, 7 years into my yoga practice, I can reflect back that not only did yoga transform my body physically (lean, strong, balanced), but changed my life (self-acceptance, relaxation, honoring my spirit and my gifts, exercise as a form of BOTH physical activity and mental health), etc.

As a therapist specializing in eating disorder treatment now, I do believe that a huge cause of eating disorders in our culture now are a result of a total disconnect between FOOD and OURSELVES. We are raised to eat things in packaging, without understanding of where our food is coming from, what is proper nutrition, where our food comes from, and the list goes on. No wonder people are at battles with food! I firmly believe that if we can slowly shift to a more eco-friendly, plant-based mindset when it comes to food and nutrition, we can change the way eating disorders are ravaging our society.

We all deserve bliss!

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Pure2 August 4, 2010 at 7:32 pm

Lisa – you said it all!!! I totally agree ; ) And yes yoga has helped us too gain ourselves back both mentally and physically. Thank you for sharing your story and tips. And yes we all do deserve bliss…we all deserve the best life we can have for ourselves.

Tamikko August 4, 2010 at 7:38 pm

you are both so inspirational :) I just named your blog my fav on VegNews Magazine’s VegAwards :) It took my an eyeblink to think of my fav. :) :) :)

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Pure2 August 5, 2010 at 4:37 am

Tamikko, wow!!!! Thank you so much for your support : )

Averie (LoveVeggiesAndYoga) August 4, 2010 at 11:43 pm

“, we do have a hard time connecting with others sometimes. We are not sure why, because we never judge people for what they eat.”—oh I think that anytime one is a vegan/high raw/ gluten free/free from eating most mainstream crappy foods…that others get insecure about their choices and somehow project this onto us. It happens to me and I do not care one bit! about what other ppl eat, i never even discuss food nor MY choices..i actually try to not bring it up b/c most ppl just dont understand and it distances me from them and what’s the point of that, ya know.

anyway, sooo happy that living raw foods have helped you soo much! they have done the same for me w/ regard to my food allergies and just feeling better about WHAT i am eating, the quality and calibur of the food not being processed and it being more natural. not saying i am perfect, never try to be, but i just do what i can, best as i can, without stressing over it all!

:)

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Pure2 August 5, 2010 at 4:40 am

Averie – for true, we try not to talk about our way of eating, but sometimes people ask so many questions. We try are best to explain, sigh.
We are no way perfect! And just try to do our best with what we got ; )

fartygirl August 5, 2010 at 9:17 am

Raw foods is totally where it’s at!!! They are so easy. They take so much less time to prepare. They hit the belly all nice and smooth. Plus they make it so much easier for you to tell when you’re full. LOVE THEM! Also appreciate you girls for suggesting them. Your blog definitely pushed me to give them a try. Although I don’t stick to raw foods as much as I should, they have made me feel much more energized and happy. :)

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Pure2 August 5, 2010 at 10:17 am

Farty girl – every improvement is a positive thing worth celebrating! We are happy to hear we have helped inspire you to try more raw foods ; ) You do not have to do it all, just even a little can help!!

katie August 5, 2010 at 10:23 am

WOW this story is so incredibly awesome!! that is SO SOMETHING TO CELEBRATE AND BE HAPPY ABOUT!!! i am so thankful you are focusing on the positive- how FAR yall have come! thats a BIG deal!!!! nobody is perfect and ever will be perfect! yall are awesome!

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Heather Eats Almond Butter August 5, 2010 at 10:55 am

Thanks for sharing your struggles ladies – I know many of us can relate. :)

I think you’re both beautiful, and you always seem so positive. I can read your passion for you what you do in each and every post. You make all your food with love, and that is such a key ingredient.

Keep up the good work, and I’m so happy to hear that you have both learned to love food again…now, how does one go about getting one of those flatbread tomato sandwiches?!? That sounds so delicious right now! :)

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Pure2 August 5, 2010 at 12:35 pm

Heather- thank you!!!! it means a lot ; ) I know I want another tomato sandwich.

Heathy August 5, 2010 at 6:32 pm

Thank you so much for sharing girls! You’re amazing and inspiring!
I’ve struggled with the same issues, and for me, it’s easier to approach food and life one day at a time (sometimes easier said than done, lol).

I admire and love you both! XO

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Pure2 August 5, 2010 at 6:49 pm

Oh Heathy thank you sooooo much for this wonderful comment. We adore you! SENDING lots of HUGS!

Jackie (Peaces of Earth) August 6, 2010 at 9:01 pm

Thank you so much for sharing this!! It’s so great to see how far you’ve come and I think you have such a great attitude towards food. I know that raw food has helped me so much, but it mostly helped me help myself.

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Aubrey December 20, 2010 at 1:17 pm

Is there ANY place/treatment places you can go to incorpirate this because my parents are making me go to treatment but I know I won’t reover without this because it feels right to me. Thank you and please help

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